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I've literally gained 6 pounds in the last week.
My younger brother Michael, along with my childhood friend Troy who now lives in Switzerland, were in town visiting for a week.
It's been non-stop eating - ramen at Chuko in Prospect Heights, Brunch at Talde in Park Slope, and I don't know how many pizza and burgers we had delivered during our late night Call of Duty sessions.
It's like we're in high-school again, except with a lot more alcohol.
Admittedly, my day-to-day life suffered a bit.
My writing and designing that week came to a screeching halt.
I put my rigid 4 days a week weight-training schedule and strict diet on hold.
I did have a gameplan to stick to it all.
But then I let that idea go, ate, drank and enjoyed my time with them.
And I don't regret it one bit.
Last Week, I wrote about "Why you should (sometimes) be lazy."
Today, I'm going to share something important I've read recently that relates to the last e-mail, this past week and hopefully your life as well.
The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying.
Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who specializes in caring for terminally ill patients.
She noticed a common pattern when she talked to her patients about their lives. She collected them into a wildly famous post and book about the regrets of the dying.
I've edited the Top 5 Regrets, but I'll link to the original post at the end if you want to read the whole thing.
Here Are The 5 Regrets of the Dying
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled...
Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it."
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship.
Women also spoke of this regret.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do."
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others...they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming.
Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others.
People may initially react when you change the way you are...in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new, and healthier level.
Or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win."
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down.
Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years.
There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.
Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away."
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
"This is a surprisingly common one.
Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice.
They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits.
The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity.
Fear of change had them pretending to others.
Deep within, they longed to laugh and have silliness in their life again."