My name is Peter.

The Essential Man is where I write about the things that interest me. 

Happiness, business, style, and especially, living on my own terms. 

I've had an amazing and crazy journey to get where I am now.

But I am still exploring what it means to live well. And I like sharing what I find with people. 

When I'm not writing, I'm working on my own menswear company, where I mostly make leather jackets.

Before that, I've spent the last 10 years in New York as a menswear designer. I've worked for some award winning designers like this guy and this guy, and ghost designed for a few that you probably wear. I take full responsibility with helping popularize the trend of leather sweatpants. I'm sorry. 

I hate writing "about mes", biographies and faqs.

I figured it would be much easier to know a bit about me using the famous Proust Questionnaire. Read that below. 

And if you need to, you can reach me at


What is your idea of perfect happiness? Sunday Morning. Croissant from Payard Bakery. Iced Coffee. Black. At a table with a cat and Sheena. 

What is your greatest fear? Believing I'm not worthy of living the life I want.  

Which historical figure do you most identify with? Seneca the Younger. The stoics really understood living a good life. 

What is the trait you most deplore in yourself? Obsessive Compulsion

What is the trait you most deplore in others? Lack of Empathy

What is your greatest extravagance? Making my own Leather Jackets

What is your favorite journey? Manifesting the mess in my head into something tangible in the real world. Creating. 

What do you consider the most overrated virtue? Traditional Values

On what occasion do you lie? Before the check has cleared

What do you dislike most about your appearance? I’ve moved past that after high school. When you don’t give a fuck, people follow suit. 

Which words or phrases do you most overuse? “I found that interesting.”

What is your greatest regret? “Regrets, I’ve had a few, but then again, too few to mention.”—Paul Anka.

What or who is the greatest love of your life? Sheena. And coffee.

When and where were you happiest? Stumbling into a New York Diner with friends after a night of drinking. Turkey club with a side of mayo and a huge Coke with tiny pebbled ice.

Which talent would you most like to have? The ability to sing.

What do you consider your greatest achievement? Avoiding a proper 9-5 job.  

If you were to die and come back as a person or thing, what do you think it would be?  I don’t want to come back. I don’t want to think about being given another shot. I’ll appreciate this go ‘round a whole lot more. 

What is your most treasured possession? Time

What is your favorite occupation? Professional amateur polymath

What is your most marked characteristic? Curiosity

What do you most value in your friends? Empathy above all else. 

What is the quality you most like in a man? Honesty

What is the quality you most like in a woman? Honesty

Who are your favorite writers?  Kazuo Ishiguro, Margaret Atwood, Junot Diaz, Phillip K Dick, Patricia Highsmith, Zadie Smith, J.K. Rowling, Dr. Seuss, Chuck Palahniuk

Who is your favorite hero of fiction? I prefer slight anti-heroes. Their flaws make them feel a lot more human. Sherlock Holmes falls in this category, but it's really a battle between him and George Constanza of Seinfeld. They're both geniuses in their own ways.   

Who are your heroes in real life?  My mother. She escaped the Vietnam war and fled to the US. She spoke no english. Had about $3.00 to her name. Built two businesses. Raised 7 asshole kids. 62, still working. 

What is it that you most dislike? Dogma

How would you like to die? Freshly fed and laid. 

What is your motto? Do what makes for a better story.