Last Wednesday I shared a private box for Kanye West's Yeezus tour in NYC. (Thanks to Sheena for getting us tickets through her job.) A couple sat behind us, spending a good portion of the concert staring at the glowing screen of their phones.
It was annoying, but it was hard for me to judge.
I often find myself mentally pulling back my arm as it tries to reach for my phone when Sheena and I are watching a show or movie together on the couch. It's gotten to the point where it is nearly automatic, like breathing.
I'm old enough to remember a time before widespread internet. I was born in the early 80s and grew up in the 90s. I remember being able to sit and draw an entire story for a day, or build a model for hours. Being hyperfocused was such a problem that my parents would yell at me to take a break.
There's always a downside to things. Instant connection also means we've developed a desire for instant gratification. Instant validation. I just did it write now. I saw my Twitter blink so I stopped writing and checked a reply. Sick, right?
Only lately have I realized what affect this has had on other parts of my life. With my fitness goals. My work goals. We get infinite updates of the results of hard work: weight loss photos, a new product or company that just sold something for a billion dollars. Combine this with our desires for things faster and we set ourselves up for disappointments. Why can't I be that fit now? Why don't I have that kind of success now?
It's certainly been my problem. It's not that the fitness/nutrition routines don't work. Or that I have a lack of resources or ability. There is just a lack of delaying gratification. (And It's not easy.)
"The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it." -Arnold H. Glasow
It's only now that I've been able to be happy. To get results. But not by demanding happiness or results now. But by inching your way there while everyone else is busy worrying why nothing is happening to them now.
Those too distracted by their desires for instant gratification will want to know the secret to your results.
You can tell them "It takes a long time to be an overnight success."